Sappy Movies

People shouldn't be allowed to watch sappy romantic movies alone. More specifically, single people shouldn't be allowed to. I just finished watching Love & Sex. Movies like that make you think that the person who you've had a long relationship with in the past, is actually right for you. Even though you know you're not compatible and being together would never work out right. These movies tell you that, with all things considered, everything will work out and you'll be all lovey dovey the rest of your life.

Well, I hate to break it to you, but they don't end up like that. Sure, many people find "the One" and have a long, lasting, happy marriage, but there are also many who don't. You can be in a long term relationship with someone and things can still not work out even though you've been together for so long.

In some cases, you grow apart as the years go by. In other cases, you get together at a somewhat young age, and as you start to grow up, you realize that your goals and theirs do not mesh. This is why those who get married after the age of 25 have a higher success rate of staying together. In other cases, you just realize that the person you are with is not what you wanted in the first place and you were both lonely. There are many reasons for relationships not working out. No matter what the reason, it takes a long time to get over them. Whether you are the person who broke up with them or vice versa.

Sometimes, it takes many years to even be able to speak and see the other person again. Other times, you will never be able to. In some cases though, you get lucky and it's a mutual thing. This isn't to say you're not both broken up about the break up. It just means that you both realize that you aren't right for each other. Once this is established, a friendship can form if you wish. In other cases, as long as one of the people still wants to be with the other one or has those "lovey" feelings for the other, there is no possibility of friendship.

Now, the best friendships I've had have been with exes. Also, some of the worst relationships I've had have been with friends. It is crucial to analyze your feelings before jumping into anything. You can ruin a good friendship because you're feeling lonely and you figure since you enjoy hanging out with your friend, that they'll make a good significant other. Life is all about decisions and consequences and relationships make up a large part of our lives.